People die every day. This is an irrefutable fact. Sadly, my friend died a few days ago. My heart goes out to her family and other friends. There’s never a good time for someone to die- there’s always a birthday or an anniversary. But December always feels so much worse. The Holiday season can be fraught at the best of times, but when a loved one dies in December, the holidays become very difficult.
There’s a lovely article here about ways to cope over the coming weeks. Amidst the grief, there will be moments of happiness and joy. This feels conflicting and confusing, I know. The fact that the world carries on despite the bottom dropping out of yours, is baffling. However, life does carry on and children especially, will expect Santa (or your chosen deity) to visit. Within these moments, try to ride the waves of grief that will inevitably rise. Shutting the feelings down won't help. It'll just come back up with extra power later.
Do take care of yourselves, remember that Christmas doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s to be valid. Please remember to check in on people who've lost someone especially around this time of year. If you're struggling, do try reaching out to The Samaritans on 116 123 or www.samaritans.org or a friend.
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